My parents didn't have Alzheimers, but we had to go through so many of the same steps to move them into a higher level of care. No choice is the right one, and the guilt can be all-consuming. Your mom was "lucky" in that you had a few choices. In more rural parts of the country, you're often stuck with few choices (and few people who want to do the work of caring for the elderly). Still, it all sucks.
My parents didn't have Alzheimers, but we had to go through so many of the same steps to move them into a higher level of care. No choice is the right one, and the guilt can be all-consuming. Your mom was "lucky" in that you had a few choices. In more rural parts of the country, you're often stuck with few choices (and few people who want to do the work of caring for the elderly). Still, it all sucks.
hugs to you all.